Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative Divorce – what is it?  A few years ago, Gwyneth Paltrow talked about “conscious uncoupling”.  What she is describing is the process of “collaborative divorce”.

Collaborative Divorce FAQ’s

  1.  What is Collaborative Divorce?

It is a special kind of transparent divorce where both parties hire Collaborative Attorneys.  These attorneys are specially trained to handle divorce without conflict.  They also pledge NOT to go to Court.  The parties may also hire other helpers, like mental health professionals, and financials, to enable settlement.  The parties promise in writing to exchange disclosures with full transparency.

2.  Why would I choose Collaborative Divorce when I know my attorney won’t go to Court if the case won’t settle and I have to spend extra money to hire a new attorney?

The reason collaborative divorce works is because each party involved PLEDGES to be transparent and NOT to go to Court.  To make their pledge known, they sign a disqualification agreement at the outset, so every one knows that they will not attempt to use the collaborative process to unfairly gain an advantage, then run to court with the information.  The disqualification agreement discourages dirty tactics.  If  the parties fall out of the collaborative process, it will be very costly for them to hire new attorneys to represent them in Court.

Family law is unique.  Unlike civil or criminal law, “winning” in family law comes at great costs, especially in custody battles where the victims are the children.  Unfortunately, many attorneys are not trained to handle the conflict involved in family law.  As such, they use only the skills they learn to fight, fight, fight, driving up needless fees and costs, only to yield very little positive results.  How do you know if the attorney you hired has your best interests at heart, or is merely using your anger as fuel to generate unnecessary litigation?  Sometimes it’s not so clear.  That’s why collaborative divorce is worth exploring – as the attorneys PROMISE to be the solution, and not needlessly fight.

3.  Isn’t that expensive?

You may choose to enter the Collaborative Divorce with 2 attorneys.  Or, you may choose to hire mental health coaches, and financials.  Even so, the average Collaborative Divorce costs $8,000  – $12,000, compared to that of a litigated divorce (approximately $25,000).

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