Illinois: No More Custody Battles

In 2016, Illinois did something brilliant – it removed the word “custody”‘ from its family law, codified in the Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act.  Instead of “custody” (legal and physical, sole and joint), Judges will now assign parental responsibility and parenting time to the parents.  No more “Custody” battles!!! Instead, parents can litigate over “parental responsibility” and “parenting time”.

Illinois, I love you.

As a family law attorney for almost 20 years, I can’t tell you how ugly the word “custody”

Avoid Being a Gatekeeper in Custody Battles

Gatekeeper mom in custody battle.

Lately, I’ve heard “gatekeeping” thrown around a lot in court, so I wrote this blog to help clear up some misconceptions.

First, gatekeeping is not necessarily ALL bad.  Most families have a gatekeeper.  In my family, I AM PROUDLY THAT GATEKEEPER.   I fiercely protect our family calendar.  I enroll my children in activities.  I plan all meals and decide what time we eat.  I am always the homeroom mom!   

Prenups: Everything You’ve Ever Wanted To Know

Today, I had the distinct honor of being on AirTalk with Larry Mantle.  The subject was prenups.  You can hear it here!

So let’s talk about this.

In Re Marriage of Chris Pratt and Anna Farris

Chris Pratt is divorcing Anna Farris.  Another day, another divorce in Hollywood.  I don’t know who these actors are, but it doesn’t matter.   I am summoned to discuss the how-to’s and what-if’s of these people’s ending.  If you are interested, I post the link to my short TV appearance below, which usually contains the same general snippits about the legalities of divorce.

The truth is – people’s marriages will always be ending if you don’t actively work on CHOOSING it every day.  

President Trump cited as reason for divorce

Political differences can end a marriage.  This Florida couple sets an example.  He is a Democratic party supporter.  She is a HUGE Trump supporter.  She even spite him by posting TRUMP’s photo as her profile pic.  On well – stranger things have happened in Florida, I guess.

How to Divorce like Jen and Ben

On April 13, 2017, Jennifer Garner filed her Jen Garner and Ben Affleck Divorce papers from her husband of over 10 years, Ben Affleck.  On the SAME day, Ben Affleck filed his Response.  Each of them filed “In propia persona” (without lawyers), and their Petitions mirrored each other.  No wrath, no fury, no speculation.  NO news!!!

As a divorce lawyer, I am compelled to sing their praises!

What a selfless and smart couple.  Here is why I think every divorce (not just Hollywood) should be handled EXACTLY like Ben and Jen.