Am I Ready for Divorce?

There is a common misunderstanding that divorce lawyers should be consulted after a nasty fight where “divorce” gets thrown around.  Monday mornings are the busiest phone days for our office because weekends are usually when couples have the opportunity to fight.

Every month, I receive many calls from prospective clients who ask me, “Is divorce the right decision for me?”

As a divorce lawyer and mediator, I can’t answer that question.  Divorce is a life change.  Not only is it a mental and emotional change, it is a physical change in everything: living arrangements, financial arrangements, and child-rearing duties.  Whether or not you are ready depends on several factors, but in order to successfully get ready for and adapt to these major life changes, you need to be in a calm state of mind.

Right after a blow-out fight is therefore the WORST time to call a divorce attorney’s office.

Nevertheless, I understand the urgency of coaching/legal advice when you are feeling threatened.  If divorce papers have not been filed, and/or you are still living together, we recommend you schedule a Divorce Readiness Consultation with our office.  This type of consultation involves you meeting with an attorney and Mental Health Professional to assess your situation and provide guidance should a divorce be imminent.


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